Fun-Filled BDJ Women’s Summit

Yesterday’s event was a wonderful experience for me as a Bella, especially since this was also my first time to attend a conference or summit for women empowerment. The Samsung Hall Auditorium was filled with more than a hundred guests.

Inside the Samsung Hall Auditorium
Inside the Samsung Hall Auditorium


Registration for the BDJ Women’s Summit started at 8 am and the queue was already that long when I arrived at the venue. Lucky enough, I and my sisters were able to get to the venue in time, much thanks to Grab.  We were waiting patiently for our turn to be accommodated and claim our ID Pass, as well as our Summit Kit which includes snacks and goodies sponsored by brand partners (Oishi, Hunt’s, Goldilocks, Kratos, Griffins, La Pacita, Kai, bobbie Nails, habitat, Sharpie, Olay, Jergens, BIC, Ace Water Spa and more) , as well as the booklet where we could jot down key notes.

While waiting for the program to start, I reviewed the booklet from cover to cover starting with the flow of the program, speaker profiles, partner organizations and event promos. I also took a selfie with my ID pass.

Ms. Luane Dy hosting the BDJ Women's Summit
Ms. Luane Dy hosting the BDJ Women’s Summit

Ms. Aya, one of the BDJ Team, opened the Women’s Summit by welcoming the Bellas and started a program with mini-games such as question and answer game, Bring Me, and sharing game, before opening the floor to the host, Ms. Luane Dy, followed by the welcoming remarks of Ms. Darlyn Ty.

Now, proceeding with the plenary sessions and  speakers, here’s how it went:

Plenary 1 Speakers: Ms. Abbygale Arenas –De Leon , Ms. Jodi Sta. Maria and Ms. Hidilyn Diaz (Unleashing the Power Within)

Ms. Abbygale Arenas-De Leon (Certified Image Consultant, Binibining Filipinas 1997)
Ms. Abbygale Arenas-De Leon (Certified Image Consultant, Binibining Filipinas 1997)

Some of us may not be that familiar with Ms. Abbygale Arenas. She was a former representative of the Philippines in the 1997 Miss Universe Pageant, Fashion Model and a TV Personality. She has ventured into the world of image consultancy where she inspires others with her legacy of beauty and poise.

Ms. Abbygale Arenas inspired Bella’s on looking and feeling good through her sharing of secrets on how every Bella can be beautiful, especially when it comes to dressing and different kinds of smile. Apart from that, she also teaches us the importance of living life NOW.

Here are some of her words of wisdom:
* “Live the best life possible.”
* “We can make things special. “/ “You are unique”
* “You have to make sure that you treat your body like a temple.”

What I liked the most from these words of wisdom is the third one. Our body is God-given, we don’t really own it so we better take good care of it by not defiling our bodies with vices like smoking, drinking or putting tattoos.

Ms. Jodi Sta. Maria (Actress, International Emmy Awards Nominee)
Ms. Jodi Sta. Maria (Actress, International Emmy Awards Nominee)

We have all seen her in various television shows like Tabing Ilog (George Fuentebella), Pangako Sa ‘Yo 2002 version (Lia Buenavista), Be Careful With My Heart (Maya Dela Rosa) and the remake version of Pangako Sa ‘Yo (Amor Powers). Ms. Jodi Sta. Maria started acting at the age of 15. She’s a versatile actress who received nominations from FAMAS, Gawad Urian and the International  Emmy Awards for her portrayal of Amor Powers.

Here’s my takeaway from her life-story sharing/words of wisdom:
* “When God gives skills or talents, it comes with a purpose.”
* “Turning our dreams to reality requires massive action.”
* Dreams give vision, actions give the opportunity, but it is faith that gives us the fulfillment.”

What struck me the most from her inspirational words was the last one where we should not only dream, take action, but also have deep faith in our Creator who gave us the skills/talents. This was what I admire the most in Ms. Jodi Sta Maria — her deep faith in God. More than that, she inspired me more with her answer to my question ‘What can you advice to those who wanted to be actresses someday?’ . It’s true that it wasn’t really easy when entering the show business, it takes a lot of patience, determination and passion/desire.. but what matters most is our ATTITUDE.

Ms. Hidilyn Diaz (Silver Olympic Medalist, Rio 2016 Olympics)
Ms. Hidilyn Diaz (Silver Olympic Medalist, Rio 2016 Olympics)

Ever heard of the quote or saying ‘No Pain, No Gain’? That’s what I believe most when Ms. Hidilyn Diaz shared her life story yesterday. Despite having leg injuries and failed in one of the competitions she has joined, she still chose to be positive ,fight and gave her very best until she finally won. Determination and passion were the qualities or characteristics she possessed .

Here’s what I liked most from the things she shared:
* “Nothing’s impossible with God.”
* God gives us more than what we expect only when we know how to surrender everything to Him but still remember to do our part.”

Both these statements hold true. Nothing is really impossible with God when we entrust everything to Him. But still, we have to keep in mind that we also have to do our part.

After their session follows a Q&A with the speakers where Bella’s get to ask questions for each speaker.

Q&A with Ms. Abbygale, Hidilyn and Jodi
Q&A with Ms. Abbygale, Hidilyn and Jodi

Plenary 2 Speakers: Ms. Rebecca Bustamante-Mills and Ms. Pia Gladys Perey (Make It Big With Something Small)

Ms. Rebecca Bustamante Mills (OFW turned Businesswoman, Charle Associates)
Ms. Rebecca Bustamante Mills (OFW turned Businesswoman, Charle Associates)


Ms. Rebecca Bustamante-Mills opens her session with two questions: “How can you be successful? or what is success?” and “Why are there many who are un-successful?”

You can be successful only if you work hard. It doesn’t matter where you start, just as long as you work hard and strive for excellence? Then you can become successful. With regards to the second question, there are many reasons why many people are unsuccessful: 1) unwilling to work, 2) negative thinking , 3) fear of failure .  Let me add poor time management to the many reasons why so many people are unsuccessful.

Ms. Rebecca Bustamante –Mills shares her piece of mind when it comes to her success alongside her life story. These words of wisdom are:
* “It doesn’t matter where you start.”
* “There is no shame in helping others.”
* “Challenges make you strong.”
* “Learn the skills and apply them.”
* “You need to achieve what you want in life.”

I love the first and third statement. It doesn’t matter where we start and it also doesn’t matter how big or small our business is, as long as we have the determination to work hard, then we can be successful. Also, failures or challenges should not to stop us from achieving what we want in life. As a matter of fact, they serve as a teacher to us and make us strong.

Unfortunately, I missed out on Ms. Pia Glady’s Perey’s session and the Q&A

Plenary 3 Speakers: Danah & Stacy Gutierrez and Jayme Pizarro (Be The Driving Force To Positive Change)

Ms. Danah & Stacy Gutierrez (Editors-in-Chief,
Ms. Danah & Stacy Gutierrez (Editors-in-Chief,

These twins started the Body Positivity Movement in Philippines. Being advocates of body positivity, Danah and Stacy appeared on various media in order to promote their advocacy and message when it comes to loving your body.  They upgraded their personal blog into a web magazine called and launched their first book entitled “The Big Fat Book of Self Love” , which inspires everyone to love and accept their body.

Their words of wisdom? Here they are:
* “You can have flaws and be flaw some.”
* “Big girls are the ones who should feel safe.” In other words, NO body shaming!
* “There is health at every size.”
* “Ask yourself, “What kind of reality are you creating for yourself?” /”What lies are you believing for yourself?”
* “How can you share positivity when you don’t have it in yourself?”

What strikes the most is the fourth and fifth statement. Sometimes, we really have to ask ourselves these two questions: “What kind of reality are we creating for ourselves?” and “What lies are we even believing for ourselves?”

Moreover, we reflect on this question: “How can you share positivity when you don’t have it in yourself?” . If we , ourselves, don’t have this positivity within us, how can we expect others to do the same?

Ms. Jayme Pizzaro (Founder,
Ms. Jayme Pizzaro (Founder,

Just like our silver medalist Hidilyn Diaz, Jayme Pizarro also experienced having injury, but this doesn’t stop her from running a marathon. She’s a head strong woman behind the popular running blog called ‘’ which started first as a journal of her passion for running then later grew into one of the most credible and widely followed online resource and inspiration for Filipino runners.

What I’ve learned most from her is the 6Fs which stands for: 1) Follow your heart, girl!, 2) Find a higher purpose, 3) Friends! Community, 4) Face Your Fears, 5) Fight and 6) Have Fun.  Aside from this, I’ve also learned not to be afraid to give up the good to go for the great . This means that we can do more than that so we don’t need any reason to be afraid to step out of our comfort zones. Get out and have fun!

Vice President Ma. Leonora ‘Leni’ Robredo (Keynote Speaker)


Last, but definitely not the least, is our key note speaker: Vice President Ma. Leonora “Leni” Robredo. She’s known to be the 14th Vice President of the Philippines but before that, she was a human rights lawyer who devoted most of her time serving for the most vulnerable sectors of the Philippine Society. She was also a public attorney, a member of the alternative lawyers group SALIGAN and Representative of the Third District of Camarines Sur.

I admit I am not really that much of a fan of our Vice President, but it doesn’t give me any reason not to be empowered by her words yesterday. Quoting her, “Empathy empowers while meanness and criticisms imprisons.” When we are being mean to one another or even criticize other people, we imprison them or do not give them the freedom to voice out their thoughts. When we empathize with other people, we empower them.

What’s the use of being on the safe side anyways when you can’t speak out for the voiceless? Despite all the issues being thrown to her, most especially the impeachment being imposed, Vice President Leni Robredo still chooses to speak out, unafraid. She’s not afraid to lose a fight.

with VP Leni
Group photo with Vice President Leni Robredo

Ms. Abbygale, Ms. Jodi, Ms. Hidilyn, Ms. Danah &Stacy Gutierrez, Ms. Jaymie Pizarro and our Vice President are these speakers who empowered and inspired me the most.

But of course, the fun in this event just doesn’t stop with the sessions, there’s the raffle prize where lucky Bella’s get the chance to win one of the surprises from BDJ’s brand partners – gift certificates from Skin Station, Serenitea and Browhaus, gift packs from Jergens, Wacoal, Tupperware, Pink Sugar, Flawless and more. I could consider myself lucky also for winning three gift certificates from Skin Station (1 from the game and 2 from the raffle.)

With Ms. Luane Dy

Ms. Luane Dy gave the closing remarks and ended the Women’s Summit. It was now time for us to claim our certificates from the staff in charge. I still stayed for a short moment after the sessions to visit one of the booths of some of the advocacy groups like Miss Possibilities, Angat Buhay and ECPAT PH, as well as join in some games from Flawless and Serenitea. There’s also this photobooth where Bella’s can take photos of themselves.

Advocacy Groups I want to Support:


Game and Selfie Time!


I just love visiting this booth. I Choose Flawless!

Selfie at the photobooth

This event is really worth attending! So glad to have taken my part by attending the BDJ Women’s Summit.

Now it’s time to uncover or take a peek at what’s inside the Summit Kit loot bag.

A Summit Kit loot bag jam-packed with surprises
A Summit Kit loot bag jam-packed with surprises

Ready to take a look? Here it is… Ta Da!

Goodies from different brand partners/sponsors
Goodies from different brand partners/sponsors

Thank you Sharpie, Oishi, Kratos, Kai, Bobbie Nails, Olay, WaCoal, Griffins, Habitat, La Pacita, Jergens, Life, Goldilocks, Maynilad and Belle de Jour for these goodies.

Certificate of Participation

Here’s the certificate of participation for the BDJ Women’s Summit.

But wait… there’s more!

Flawless Pink Peso Voucher
Flawless Pink Peso Voucher

Thank you, Flawless Face and Body Clinic for this pink peso voucher. 🙂


BDJ Women’s Summit: Women Can Women Will

16649499_10211542789503649_2671217532482594170_nHello, Bellas!

We have only 5 days left before the BDJ Women’s Summit: Women Can, Women Will! Aren’t you excited to learn from amazing speakers and be inspired by their life stories?

In light of the International Women’s Month, we take the opportunity to learn from different women who will share their respective stories, advice and insights that we, Bella’s, can grasp and take home with us at this event.

Unleashing The Power Within with Abbygale Arenas de Leon, Jodi Sta. Maria and Hidilyn Diaz (10:00 am-11:35 am)

Make It Big By Starting Small with Pia Gladys Perey and Rebecca Bustamante (11:40 am-1:50 pm)

Be the Driving Force to Positive Change with Danah and Stacy Gutierrez and Jayme Pizarro (2:00 pm-3:05 pm)

Last but not the least is a key note speech: Women Can, Women Will with VP Leni Robredo

Leni Robredo (Vice President, Republic of the Philippines)
Leni Robredo (Vice President, Republic of the Philippines)

By attending the BDJ Women’s Summit , not only do we get empowered and inspired by the speakers, but we also get to help out (100% of the net proceeds goes to Ahon Sa Hirap, Inc.), and support organizations that are close to our hearts, as well as meet new friends who share the same vision with us.

Get Inspiration, Meet Women, Support, Help Out
Get Inspiration, Meet Women, Support, Help Out

Not only that, fun and exciting prizes also await you in this event. All paid ticket holders get a chance to win raffle prizes from different brand partners. What these prizes are… that’s for us, Bellas to find out

Get exciting prizes and goodies from brand partners
Get exciting prizes and goodies from brand partners

So, see you at the event this Saturday, March 25, 2017 at Samsung Hall, SM Aura Premier!

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Inspirational Verses from Our Daily Journey With God

When To Forget

Key Verse: 2 Corinthians 5:17

“Therefore, if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away, behold all things are become new.”

Abandoned by Me

Key Verse: Isaiah 53:4-5

“Surely He hath borne our grief, and carried our sorrows; yet we did esteem Him stricken, smitten of God and afflicted. But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was buried for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon Him; and with His stripes, we are healed.”

Just Like The King

Key Verse: Ephesians 5:1-21 (v.3-4)

“But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as become saints;  Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient, but rather giving of thanks.”

We’ve Got Answers

Key Verse:  Job 11:20

“But the eyes of the wicked shall fail, and they shall not escape, and their hope shall be as the giving up of the ghost.”

Lamp stand

Key Verse: Jeremiah 2: 2

“Go and cry in the ears of Jerusalem, saying, thus saith the Lord, ‘I remember thee, the kindness of thy youth, the love of thine espousals, when thou wentest after Me in the wilderness, in the land that was not sown.”

Long Commute

Key Verse: 1 Corinthians 7:1-7 (v.3)

“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.”


Key Verse: 1 Corinthians 1:10

“Now I beseech you, brethren, by the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that ye all shall speak the same thing, and that there be no divisions among you; but that ye be perfectly joined in the same mind and in the same judgment.”

All Things Are Possible

Key Verse: Luke 18:22-24

“Now when Jesus heard these things, He said unto him, ‘Yet lackest thou one thing: sell all that thou hast, and distribute unto the poor, and thou shalt have treasure in heaven and come, follow me.’ And when he heard this, he was very sorrowful: for he was very rich. And when Jesus saw that he was very sorrowful, He said, ‘How hardly shall they that have riches enter into the kingdom of God!’”

Higher Logic

Key Verse:  Matthew 18:32-33

“Then his lord, after that he had called him, said unto him, ‘O thou wicked servant, I forgave thee all that debt, because thou desiredst me: Shouldest thou not also have had compassion on thy fellow servant, even as  I had pity on thee?’”.

Company You Keep

Key Verse: 1 John 3:16-19

“Hereby perceive we the love of God, because He had laid down His life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. But whoso hath this world’s good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him? My little children, let us not love in word, neither in tongue; but in deed and in truth. And hereby we know that we are of the truth and shall assure of our hearts before Him.”

A Healthy Lifestyle

Key Verse: Proverbs 4:20-22

“My son, attend to my words; incline thine ear unto my sayings. Let them not depart from thine eyes; keep them in the midst of thine heart. For they are life to those that find them, and health to all their flesh.”

Into Temptation

Key Verse: 1 Corinthians 10:13

“There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able, but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

Four Hearts

Key Verse: Revelations 3:20

“Behold, I stand at the door , and knock; If any man hear My voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with Me.”

Bubble Trouble

Key Verse: 2 Timothy 3:10-12

“But thou hast fully known my doctrine, manner of life, purpose, faith, longsuffering, charity, patience, persecutions, afflictions, which came unto me at Antioch, at Iconium,  at Lystra; what persecutions I endured: but out of them all the Lord delivered me. Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.”

Oscar For Fathers

Key Verse: Romans 8:15

“For ye have not received the Spirit of bondage to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, ‘Abba, Father’.”

David and The Dwarf

Key Verse: John 14:1

“Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.”


Key Verse: 1 Corinthians 2:10

“But God revealeth them unto us by His Spirit; for the Spirit searcheth all things, yea, the deep things of God.”

Waiting For Rain

Key Verse: Joel 2:23

“Be glad then, ye children of Zion, and rejoice in the Lord your God: for He hath given you the former rain moderately, and He will cause to come down for you the rain, the former rain, and the latter rain in the first month.”

Investment Advice

Key Verse: Luke 9:23-25

“And He said to them all, ‘If any man will come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow Me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for My sake, the same shall save it. For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away?’”

Sin and Self-Worth

Key Verse: 1 Timothy 1:15-16

“This is a faithful saying, and worthy of all acceptation, that Christ Jesus came into the world to save sinners; of whom I am chief. Howbeit for this cause I obtained mercy, that in me first Jesus Christ might shew forth all longsuffering, for a pattern to them which should hereafter believe in Him to life everlasting.”

The Oprah Effect

Key Verse: Genesis 14:22-23

“And Abram said to the King of Sodom, ‘I have lifted up mine hand unto the Lord, the Most High, possessive of heaven and earth, that I will not take from a thread even to a shoelace, and that I will not take anything that is thine, lest thou should say, I have made Abram rich.’”

Get Low

Key Verse: Proverbs 16:18

“Pride goeth before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

Let It (All) Go

Key Verse: Genesis 22:12

“And he said, ‘Lay not thine hand upon the lad, neither do thou any thing unto him: for now I know that thou fearest God, seeing thou have not withheld thy son, thine only son from me.’”

Follow Jesus .. on Twitter

Key Verse: Mark 1:16-20

“Now as he walked by the sea of Galilee, he saw Simon and Andrew his brother casting nets into the sea for they were fishers. And Jesus said unto them ‘Come ye after Me ,and I will make you become fishers of men.’ And straightway they forsook their nets and followed him. And when they had gone a little further thence, he saw James the son of Zebedee and John his brother, who were also in the ship mending their nets. And straightway he called them: and they left their father Zebedee in the ship with the hired servants and went after him.”

Criminally Cute

Key Verse: Romans 5:18

“Therefore as by the offence of one judgment came upon all men to condemnation, even so by the righteousness of one the free gift came upon all men unto justification of life.”


Key Verse: John 16:20

“Verily, verily I say unto you, that ye shall weep and lament, but the world shall rejoice: and you shall be sorrowful, but your sorrow shall be turned to joy.”

Power Failure

Key Verse: 1 Samuel 13:13-14

“And Samuel said to Saul, Thou hast done foolishly; thou hast not kept the commandment of the Lord thy God, which He commanded thee: for now would the Lord have established thy kingdom upon Israel forever. But now thy kingdom shall not continue: the Lord hath sought him a man after His own heart, and the Lord hath commanded him to be captain over his people, because thou hast not kept that which the Lord commanded thee.”

A Time To Learn

Key Verse: 2 Peter 1:10-11

“Wherefore the rather, brethren, give diligence to make your calling and election sure: for if ye do these things, ye shall never fall. For so an entrance shall be ministered unto you abundantly into the everlasting kingdom of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ.”

Embrace The Cross

Key Verse: Galatians 2:20

“I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me. And the life which I now live in the flesh , I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave Himself for me.”

Prison Break

Key Verse: Isaiah 42:6-7

“I the Lord have called thee in righteousness, and I will hold thine hand, and will keep thee, and give thee for a covenant of the people, for the light of the Gentiles; to open the blind eyes, to bring out the prisoners from the prison, and them that sit in darkness out of the prison house.”

God’s Friend

Key Verse: John 15:13

“Greater love hath no man than this,  that a man lay down his life for his friends.”

Disturbing The Peace

Key Verse: Ephesians 2:14-7

“For He is our peace, who hath made both one and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us; having abolished in His flesh the enmity, even the law of commandments contained in ordinances; for to make in Himself of twain one new man, so making peace; and that He made reconcile both unto God in one body by the cross, having slain the enmity thereby: and came and preached peace to you which were afar off, and to them that were nigh.”

Dirty Jobs

Key Verse: Colossians 3:22-24

“Servants, obey in all things your masters according to the flesh; not with eye service, as men pleasers, but in singleness of heart, fearing God: and whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not unto men, knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance for ye serve the Lord Christ.”

No Guide

Key Verse: Jeremiah 31:9

“They shall come with weeping, and with supplications will I lead them: I will cause them to walk by the rivers of waters in a straight way, wherein they shall not stumble: for I am a father to Israel and Ephraim is my firstborn.”


Key Verse: 1 Peter 3:15-16

“But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts, and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear: having a good conscience, that, whereas they speak evil of you, as of evildoers, they may be ashamed that they falsely accuse your good conversation in Christ.”

Something Good

Key Verse: Psalms 37:7

“Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him: fret not thyself because of him who prospereth in his way, because of the Man who bringeth wicked devices to pass.”

What We Worship

Key Verse: Psalms 115: 4-7

“Their idols are silver and gold, the work of men’s hands. They have mouths but they speak not: eyes have they , but they see not. They have ears, but they hear not: noses have they but they smell not. They have hands but they handle not: feet have they but they walk not, neither speak they through their throat.”


Key Verse: Proverbs 3:3-4

“Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them around your neck; write them upon the tablet of thine heart: so shalt thou find favor and good understanding in the sight of God and man.”

Training Daze

Key Verse: 1 Kings 17:9

“Arise, get thee to Zarephath, which belongeth to Zidon, and dwell there: behold, I have commanded a widow woman there to sustain thee.”

A Gift For Jesus

Key Verse: Mark 14:9

“Verily, I say unto you, wheresoever this gospel shall be preached throughout the whole world, this also that she hath done shall be spoken of for a memorial of her.”

Flying Fish

Key Verse: Exod. 16:4

“Then said the Lord unto Moses, Behold, I shall rain bread from heaven for you; and the people shall go out and gather a certain rate every day, that I may prove them, whether they walk in My law, or no.”

Not Today

Key Verse: John 10:10

“The thief cometh not, but for to steal, to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.”

When Faith Is Weak

Key Verse: Ps. 136:23-24

“Who remembered us in our low estate: for His mercy endureth forever: And hath redeemed us from our enemies: for His mercy endureth forever.”


Key Verse: Hosea 14:4

“I will heal their backsliding, I will love them freely: for Mine anger is turned away from him.”

Letting Go

Key Verse: Matthew 10:37

“He that loveth father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me: and he that loveth son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.”

Little Platoons

Key Verse: Romans 16:17-18

“Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned, and avoid them. For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.”

Silence of God

Key Verse: Psalms 13:3-4

“Consider and hear me, O Lord my God: lighten mine eyes, lest I sleep the sleep of death; Lest mine enemy say, I have prevailed against him; and those that trouble me rejoice when I’m moved.”


Key Verse: Micah 6:8

“He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord required of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?”

Swallowing Up Death

Key Verse: Isaiah 25:8

“He will swallow up death in victory; and the Lord God will wipe away the tears from off all faces; and the rebuke of His people shall He take away from off all the earth: for the Lord hath spoken it.”

Judah and Tamar

Key Verse: Genesis 38:11

“Then said Judah to Tamar his daughter-in-law, ‘Remain a widow at thy father’s house, til Shelah my son be grown: For he said, lest peradventure he die also, as his brethren did.’  And Tamar went and dwelt in her father’s house.”

Get Real

Key Verse: Psalms 84:4-5

“Blessed are they that dwell in the house: they will still be praising thee. Selah. Blessed is the man whose strength is in thee; in whose heart are the ways of them.”

Divine Design

Key Verse: Colossians 1:16-17

“For by Him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by Him, and for Him: And He is before all things consist.”

Wild Gourds

Key Verse: 2 Kings 4:38-40

“And Elisha came again to Gilgal: and there was a dearth in the land: And the sons of the prophets were sitting before him: And he said unto his servant, set on the great pot, and seethe pottage for the sons of the prophets. And one went out into the field to gather herbs, and found a wild vine, and gathered whereof wild gourds his lap full and came and shred them into the pot of pottage, for he knew them not. So they poured out for the men to eat. And it came to pass, as they were eating of the pottage, that they cried out and said, ‘O thou man of God, there is death in the pot.’ And they could not eat thereof.”

Point To Jesus

Key Verse: John 6:65

“And He said, Therefore I said unto you, that no man can come unto Me, except it were given unto him of My Father.”


Key Verse: Proverbs 2:1-5

“My son, if thou wilt receive My Words, and hide My commandments with thee; so that thou incline thine ear unto wisdom, and apply thine heart to understanding; yea, if thou criest after knowledge, and liftest thy voice for understanding; if thou seekest her as silver, and searchest for her as hid treasures; then shalt thou understand the fear of the Lord, and find the knowledge of God.”

Respecting God

Key Verse: 1 Chronicles 11:17-19

“And David longed, and said, ‘Oh that one would give me the drink of the water of the well of Bethlehem, that is at the gate!’ And the three brake through the host of the Philistines, and drew water out of the well of Bethlehem that was by the gate, and took it and brought it to David: but David would not drink of it, but poured it out to the Lord, and said ‘My God forbid me, that I should do this thing: shall I drink the blood of these men that has put their lives in jeopardy?’ for with the jeopardy their lives brought it, for he would not drink it. These things did these three mightiest.”

Wilderness Experience

Key Verse: Mark 1:13

“And He was there in the wilderness forty days, tempted of Satan; and was with the wild beasts, and the angels ministered to Him.”


Key Verse: 1 Samuel 3:13

“For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not.”

Seeing Potholes

Key Verse: 1 Kings 11:11

“Wherefore the Lord said unto Solomon, ‘For as much as this is done of thee, and thou has not kept My covenant and My statutes, which I have commanded thee, I will surely rend thy kingdom from thee, and I will give it to thy servant.

True Repentance

Key Verse: Psalms 51:11-12

“Cast me not away from Thy presence, and take not Thy Holy Spirit from me. Restore unto me the joy of Thy salvation; and uphold me with Thy free spirit.”

Celebrating A Loss

Key Verse: 1 Corinthians 15:55-56

“O death, where is thy sting? O grave, where is thy victory? The sting of death is sin; and the strength of sin is the law.”

What Our World Tells Us

Key Verse: Psalms 19:4-5

“Their line is gone out through all the earth, and their words to the end of the world. In them hath He set a tabernacle for the sun, which is a bridegroom coming out of his chamber, and rejoiceth as a strong man to run the race.”

Hands Free

Key Verse: 1 Samuel 17:45

“Then said David to the Philistine, thou comest to me with a sword, and a spear, and with a shield: but I come to thee in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom thou hast defied.”

Postcard Secrets

Key Verse: Psalms 32:5

“I acknowledge my sins unto thee, and mine iniquity have I not hid. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the Lord; and Thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin. Selah.”

Leave The Dead Alone

Key Verse: Leviticus 19:31

“Regard not them that have familiar spirits, neither seek after wizards, to be defiled by them: I am the Lord your God.”

Mistaken Motives

Key Verse: 1 Samuel 17:28

“And Eliab his eldest brother heard when he spake unto the men; and Eliab’s anger kindled against David , and he said, Why camest thou down hither? And with whom hast thou left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know thy pride, and the naughtiness of thine heart; for thou art came down that thou mightest see the battle.”

Cleaning Our Catch

Key Verse: Luke 5:8-10

“When Peter saw it, he fell down at Jesus’ knees, saying, ‘Depart from me, for I am a sinful man, O Lord.’ For he was astonished, and all that were with him, at the draught of the fishes which they had taken: And so was also James and John, the sons of Zebedee, which were partners with Simon. And Jesus said unto Simon, Fear not , from henceforth thou shalt catch men.”

Anxious Times

Key Verse: Psalms 55:22

“Cast thy burden upon the Lord, and He shall sustain thee: He shall never suffer the righteous to be moved.”

Childhood Again

Key Verse: Matthew 18:4

“Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.”

Numero Uno?

Key Verse: Philippians 2:3-4

“Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but also on the things of others.”

Hedging Bets

Key Verse: Isaiah 42:8

“I am the Lord: that is My name: and My glory will I not give to another; neither My praise to graven images.


Key Verse: Philippians 4:6-7

“Be careful for nothing; but in prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

Right In Front Of You

Key Verse: James 1:22-24

“But be ye doers of the Word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves. For if any be a hearer of the Word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass: for he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.”

The Joy In (Not) Being God)

Key Verse: 1 Chronicles 17:20

“O Lord, there is none like Thee, neither is there any God beside Thee, according to all that we have heard with our ears.”

Anger Danger

Key Verse: Jonah 4:9-11

“And God said to Jonah, ‘Doest thou well to be angry for the gourd?’ And he said, ‘I do well to be angry, even unto death.’ Then said the Lord, ‘Thou hast had pity on the gourd, for which thou hast not labored, neither madest it grow; which came up in a night; and perished in a night: And should I not spare Nineveh, that great city, wherein are more than sixcore thousand persons that cannot discern between their right hand and their left hand; and so much cattle?”

Longing For A Guiding Voice

Key Verse: Psalms 23:4

“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for Thou art with me; Thy rod and Thy staff they comfort me.”

Giving Thanks

Key Verse: Colossians 3:12-13

“Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; forebearing one another and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.”

Too Worried To Wed

Key Verse: 1 Peter 3:7

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to the knowledge, as unto the weaken vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers be not hindered.”


Key Verse: Matthew 5:11

“Blessed are ye when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for My sake.”


Key Verse: Matthew 3:13-14

“Then cometh Jesus from Galilee to Jordan unto John, to be baptized of him, but John forbade him, saying, I have need to be baptized of thee, and comest thou to me?”

Cause Celebs

Key Verse: Romans 12:14-15

“Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Rejoice with them that do rejoice and weep with them that weep.”

Go Ask Mom

Key Verse: Deuteronomy 6:4-5

“Hear , O Israel: the Lord our God is one Lord: And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.”

Give It A Rest

Key Verse: Matthew 11:28-29

“Come to Me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn of Me: for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.”

Wasted Gift

Key Verse: Philippians 3;14

“I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.”

God Stands Here

Key Verse: John 20:17

“Jesus said unto her, Touch Me not, for I am not yet ascended unto My Father, but to go My brethren, and say unto them, I ascend unto My Father, and your Father, and to My God, and your God.”

Letting Go:

Key Verse: Romans 5:2

“By whom also we have access by faith into this grace wherein we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God.”

A Noun or A Verb

Key Verse: John 13:34-35

“A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another, as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are My disciples, if ye have love one to another.”

Maximum Sentence

Key Verse: Proverbs 6:32-33

“But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he that doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonor shall he get and his reproach shall not be wiped away.”

Hold On Loosely

Key Verse: Galatians 5:13

“For brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.”

Faith and Fear

Key Verse: Matthew 14:31

“And immediately, Jesus stretched forth His hand, and caught him, and said unto him, O thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt?”

Count The Cost

Key Verse: Luke 14:26-27

“If any man come to Me, and not hate his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be My disciple. And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after Me, cannot be My disciple.”

Inside Information

Key Verse: Romans 16:25-27

“Now to him that is of power to establish you according to my  gospel, and the preaching of Jesus Christ, according to the revelation of the mystery , which was kept secret since the world began, but now is made manifest and the Scriptures of the prophets, according to the commandment of the everlasting God, made known to all nations for the obedience of faith: to God only wise, be glory through Jesus Christ for ever. Amen.”

Baby, Not So Grand

Key Verse: Ephesians 6:4

“And ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition to the Lord.”

Lonely Places

Key Verse: Psalms 5:3

“My voice shalt thou hear in the morning, Lord; in the morning will I direct my prayers unto thee, and will look up.”

That Special

Key Verse: Luke 18:14

“I tell you, this man went down to his house justified rather than the other: for everyone that exalteth himself shall be abased; and he that humbleth himself shall be exalted.”

The New Normal

Key Verse: Matthew 5:3-4

“Blessed are the poor in spirit: for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted.”

The God-Shepherd

Key Verse: Revelations 7:17

“For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall feed them, and shall lead them to the fountains of waters: and God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes.”

The Pilot Seat

Key Verse: Deut. 11: 26-28

“Behold, I set before you this day a blessing or a curse; a blessing if ye obey the commandments of the Lord your God, which I command you this day: and a curse, if ye do not obey the commandments of the Lord your God, but turn aside out of the way which I command you this day, to go after other gods, which ye have not known.

An Unlikely Route To Life

Key Verse: John 20:6-7

“Then cometh Simon Peter following him, and went into the sepulchre, and seeth the linen clothes lie, and the napkin, that was about his head, not lying with the linen clothes, but wrapped together in a place by itself.”

Ultimate Allegiance

Key Verse: John 8:44

“Ye are of your father, the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar and a father of it.”

Help The Weak

Key Verse: Acts 20:35

“I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord, how He said, It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

Learning To Be Content

Key Verse: Philippians 4:18

“But I have all, and abound: I am fully having received of Epaphroditus the things which were sent from you, an odour of a sweet smell, a sacrifice acceptable, well pleasing to God.”

No Condemnation

Key Verse: John 3:36

“He that believeth on the Son hath everlasting life: and he that believeth not the Son shall not see life; but the wrath of God abideth in him.”

Handle With Care

Key Verse: 2 Timothy 3:16-17

“All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: that the man of God may be perfect, thoroughly furnished unto all good works.”

No Looking Back

 Key Verse: Luke 9:59-60

“And He said unto another, ‘Follow Me’ : But he said, ‘Lord , suffer me first to go and bury my father.’ Jesus said unto him, Let the dead bury their dead; but go thou and preach the kingdom of God.”

Groundhog Day

Key Verse: 1 Peter 3:14-15

“But and if ye suffer for righteousness’ sake, happy are ye: and be not afraid of their terror, neither be troubled; but sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear.”

Adoption Option

Key Verse: Matthew 5:13

“Ye are the salt of the earth, but if the salt shall have lost his savour, wherewith shall it be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast out and to be trodden under foot of men.”

Real Success

Key Verse: Deuteronomy 8:18

“But thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is He that giveth thee the power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant which He swore unto thy fathers, as it is this day.”


Key Verse: Jeremiah 50:9

“For lo, I will raise and cause to come up against Babylon an assembly of great nations from the north country: and they shall set themselves in array against her; from thence she shall be taken: their arrows shall be as of a mighty expert man;  none shall return in vain.”

An Indifferent Spouse?

Key Verse: Psalms 36:5

“Thy mercy, O Lord, is in the heavens; and Thy faithfulness reaches unto the clouds.”

Godly Wisdom

Key Verse: James 3:13-14

“Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? Let him shew out of a good conversation his works with meekness of wisdom. But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.”

Divine Tripping

Key Verse: Hebrews 12:11

“Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceful fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.”

“Pushed Away”

Key Verse: Galatians 6:7

“Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.”

Tattoos Aren’t New

Key Verse: 1 John 3:9

“No one who is born of God will continue to sin, because God’s seed remains in them; they cannot go on sinning, because they have been born of God.”

Crashing Down

Key Verse: Obadiah 1:3-4

“The pride of your heart has deceived you, you who live in the clefts of the rocks and make your home on the heights, you who say to yourself, ‘Who can bring me down to the ground?’ ‘Though you soar like the eagle and make your nest among the stars, from there I will bring you down.’ , declares the Lord.”

Saved To Sin?

Key Verse: Romans 6:15-16

“What then? Shall we sin because we are not under the law but under grace? By no means! Don’t you know when you offered yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey—whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness?”


Key Verse: Matthew 7:7

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.”

Buyer’s Remorse

Key Verse: Genesis 3:4-5

“You will not certainly die, the serpent said to the woman. For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened , and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

So We May Live

Key Verse: Deuteronomy 10:12-13

“And now, Israel, what does the Lord your God ask of you but to fear the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to Him, to love Him, to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, and to observe the Lord’s commands and decrees that I am giving you today for your own good?”

The Source of Life

Key Verse: John 1:18

“No one has ever seen God, but the one and only Son, who is himself God, and is in closest relationship with the Father, has made him known.”

Enough For Me

Key Verse: Psalms 112:5

“Good will come to those who are generous and lend freely, who conduct their affairs with justice.”

Telling The Truth

Key Verse: Exodus 20:16

“Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.”

Get Up and Pray

Key Verse: Ephesians 6:18-20

“Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints; And for me, that utterance may be given unto me, that I may open my mouth boldly, to make known the mystery of the gospel, for which I am ambassador in bonds: that therein I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak.”

Does Anyone Care?

Key Verse: Lamentations 3:24

“The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore I will hope in Him.”


Key Verse: Psalms 95:6-8

“O come, let us worship and bow down: let us kneel before the Lord our maker. For He is our God; and we are the people of His pasture, and the sheep of Hi hand. Today, if ye will hear His voice, harden not your heart, as in the provocation, as in the day of the wilderness: when your fathers tempted me, proved me and saw my work.”

Sinners Alike

 Key Verse: Romans 2:1

“Therefore, thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art judgest: for wherein thou judgest one another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that art judgest doest the same things.”

Less Than 1 Percent

Key Verse: Joshua 1:9

“Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.”

The Kingdom Of Things

Key Verse: Revelations 21:4

“And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.”


Key Verse: Luke 10:19-20

“Behold, I give unto you power to tread on serpents and scorpions, and over all the power of the enemy: and nothing shall by any means hurt you. Notwithstanding in this rejoice not, that the spirits are subject unto you; but rejoice, because your names are written in heaven.”

How Soon We Forget

 Key Verse: 1 Corinthians 11:24

“And when He had given thanks, He brake it, and said, Take, eat: this is My body, which is broken for you: this do in remembrance of Me.”

Unclean, Ungrateful, Unusual

 Key Verse: Isaiah 12:2

“Behold, God is my Salvation, I will trust, and not be afraid: for the Lord Jehovah is my strength and my song; He also is become my salvation.”

Leaving  Your Edges

Key Verse: James 1:27

“Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, to visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.”


Key Verse: Ruth 2:10

“Then she fell on her face, and bowed herself to the ground, and said unto him, Why have I found grace in thine eyes, that thou shouldest take knowledge of me, seeing I am a stranger?”

Small and Large

Key Verse: Proverbs 19:17

“He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the Lord; and that which he hath given will He pay him again.”


Key Verse: Genesis 18:13

“And the Lord said unto Abraham, ‘Wherefore did Sarah laugh, saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old?”

At His Feet

Key Verse: John 11:25-26

“Jesus said unto her, I am the resurrection and the life: he that believeth in Me, though he were dead, yet shall he live: and whosoever liveth and believeth in Me shall never die. Believest thou this?”

In Control

Key Verse: Matthew 28:18

“And Jesus came and spake unto them, saying, All power is given unto Me in heaven and in earth.”

Longing For God

Key Verse: 2 Samuel 7:23

“And what one nation in the earth is like thy people, even like Israel, whom God went to redeem for a people to Himself, and to make Him a name, and to do for you great things and terrible, for thy land, before thy people, which thou redeemest to thee from Egypt, from the nations and their gods?”

Teach Us To Pray

Key Verse: Luke 11:2-4

“And He said unto them, When ye pray, say, Our Father which art in heaven, hallowed be Thy name, Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth. Give us day by day our daily bread. And forgive us our sins; for we also forgive everyone that is indebted to us. And lead us not into temptation; but deliver us from evil.”

The Humanitarian Vet

Key Verse: 2 Corinthians 12:9

“And He said unto me, ‘My grace is sufficient for thee’ : for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest in me.”

God’s Patience

Key Verse: Isaiah 5:6

“Suffer not your mouth to cause thy flesh to sin; neither say thou before the angel, that it was an error: wherefore should God be angry at thy voice, and destroy the work of thine hands?”

Shared Happiness

Key Verse: Philemon 1:7

“For we have great joy and consolation in thy love, because the bowels of the saints are refreshed by thee, brother.”

Being Sure Of The Cause

Key Verse: Luke 22:22

“And truly the Son of Man goeth, as it was determined: but woe unto that man by whom He is betrayed!”

Who Needs Relationships?

 Key Verse: Romans 15:5-7

“Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be likeminded one toward another according to Christ Jesus: That ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Wherefore receive ye one another, as Christ also received us to the glory of God.”

Choose Love

Key Verse: 1 John 4:12

“No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us , and His love is perfected in us.”

Refusing To Play The Fool

Key Verse: Proverbs 1:7

“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”


Key Verse: 1 Timothy 6:10

“For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows.”

One, Two, Three…

Key Verse: John 1:12-13

“But as many as received Him, to them gave He power to become the sons of God, even to them that believed on His name: which were born, not of blood, nor of the will of the flesh, nor of the will of men, but of God.”

Fighting The Good Fight

Key Verse: 2 Timothy 2:4

“No man that warreth entangleth himself with the affairs of this life; that he may please him who hath chosen him to be a soldier.”

No Limits

Key Verse: Luke 10:33-34

“But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed, came where he was: and when he saw him, he had compassion on him, and went up to him, and bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and went and set him on his own beast, and brought him to an inn, and took care of him.”

Oscar Ewolo’s Transformation

Key Verse: Romans 12:2

“And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, perfect will of God.”

I Am Who?

Key Verse: Luke 20:42-43

“And David himself saith in the book of Psalms, ‘The Lord said unto my Lord, sit thou on my right hand, till I make thine enemies thy foot stool’. “

God’s Un-Obstructed View

Key Verse: Psalms 33:18-19

“Behold, the eye of the Lord is upon them that fear Him, upon them that hope in His mercy; to deliver their soul from death, and to keep them alive in famine.”

Hannah’s Adversary

Key Verse: Psalms 4:1

“Hear me when I call, O God of my righteousness: Thou hast enlarged me when I was in distress; have mercy upon me, and hear my prayer.”

More Than A Medal

Key Verse: 2 Timothy 4:7-8

“I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith: Henceforth there is laid up for me a crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, shall give me at that day: and not to me only, but unto all them that also love His appearing.”

No Babbling

Key Verse: Matthew 6:5

“And when thou prayest, thou shalt not be as the hypocrites are: for they love to pray standing in the synagogues and in the corners of the streets, that they may be seen of men. Verily , I say unto you, they have their reward.”


Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff In Love (Simple Ways To Nurture and Strengthen Your Relationships While Avoiding The Habits That Break Down Your Loving Connection) by Richard Carlson Ph.D. and Kristine Carlson- Book Review

Basically, this book is a guide on how people could nurture and strengthen their relationships with either their spouse and at the same time avoid the habits that could possibly break the relationship off. Dr. Richard and Kristine Carlson share a hundred strategies on how we could do so.

Strategy #1: Mostly, be pals.

Love relationships usually start from being good friends and getting-to-know each other phase. There’s nothing wrong with starting off from being good pals as this is where you get to know more of your partner (e.g. his/her likes and dislikes, imperfections, etc.). Just as how you treat your friend, should also be the way how you treat your partner in life.

Strategy #2: Learn to laugh at yourself

We all know that nobody is perfect. It’s part of being human. Don’t take yourself too seriously but instead learn to laugh at yourself whenever you happen to make some mistakes in your life.

Strategy #3: Let it go already

Don’t keep on dwelling on whatever mistakes or shortcomings your partner may have had. It’s no fun being around someone who harbors bitter feelings towards their partner, thinking that they would possibly do the same thing again. As what Elsa from Disney’s “Frozen” says, let it go.

Strategy #4: Turn Up The Heat

Don’t wait for your partner to make the change before you do. Because honestly, he or she won’t. Making conditions or excuses such as “I can’t turn up the heat until certain conditions are met, until he or she begins to change.” or even “I’m sick of his laziness. All he does is sit around. He’s not even trying.” is never going to work, much less that your partner will get his or her act together. No matter how long you wait, there’s a fat chance that the change you wanted to see in your partner will come.

Strategy #5: Consider that the grass probably isn’t greener

We all have this habit of trading old things for newer ones, but we never get satisfied because we always look or wish for something better. Newer cars, newer things, better jobs or careers, and so on. We can’t always get what we want all the time. Same goes for our relationship with our future partner (for those who are single).

Strategy #6: Throw away your scorecard

Admit it, some of us also have this habit of keeping track on what we do compared to that of what our partner fails to do, vice versa. This could lead to frustrations in life if this habit of ours never goes away. Instead of being resentful and keeping a tally of our partner’s mistakes, why not let him or her know where he or she has gone wrong in a calm manner?

Strategy #7: Be Kind First

Familiar with the Golden Rule “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”? This applies to how we treat our partners or future spouse. We can’t expect our partner to treat us kindly when we ourselves don’t treat them the same way or manner we wanted them to treat us.

Strategy #8 : Don’t use your partner as a punching bag!

Don’t vent all your frustrations on your partner as if he or she is always the one responsible for all your frustrations in life. They don’t even have any idea what’s going on with your day. As much as it feels good to share your frustrations with someone you love and care for, venting all of it on them does not even seem to be fair. Don’t make your partner feel like a punching bag by doing this.

Strategy #9: Ask the question: Whose quirk is this anyway?

We usually get frustrated whenever our things disappear or even get used by other people, leaving us with nothing to use whenever we do things. Or much more, leave a mess in some areas of our house, most especially the kitchen. Before we get mad at our partner for doing so, why don’t we pause for a minute and ask ourselves this question: “Whose quirk is this anyway?”

Rather than yell out at our partner, why don’t we just do the thing ourselves in a calm manner?

Strategy #10: Talk To Him His Way

Just like in the 5th and 7th strategy, we don’t always get to be the one to be listened to. Same goes for our partner. It’s a give and take situation here. We listen to our partner just as we want our partner to listen to us in whatever we want to tell them. It’s all about effective communication.

Strategy #11: Avoid the words, “I Love You, But”

Never must we add conditions whenever we say these three words to our future partner. We don’t make it a habit to connect our loving phrase to our special someone with something that’s bothering us. Don’t make it sound like a lecture to them.

There are other different strategies that the author of this book want to impart on us. These are ways we could further strengthen and nurture relationships with our future partner and spouse. Other strategies include filling our lives with opportunities to express love, looking for gifts, sharing an insight, staying away from ultimatums (no one wants them anyway), allowing time for transitions, keeping your cool before the quarrel, knowing your own value (you don’t have to end up being a doormat) , setting a good example, being a world-class listener, letting your partner buy his or her own lunch, surprising your partner with compliments, stop wishing your partner were different, thinking before you speak … and most importantly, staying away from comparisons.


Inspirational Verses from “What Matters Most For Women”




Matthew 23:12

“For whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.”

  • Speaks about humility and serving others than being served.

“Your Future” 


Jeremiah 10:23

“I know, O Lord, that a man’s life is not his own; it is not for man to direct his steps.”

  • No one is in control of his or her own life.

“A Spirit of Generosity”


2 Corinthians 9:7

“Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.”

  • Give according to your heart’s content.

“Sharing My Faith” 


Romans 10:19

“Again , I ask: Did Israel not understand? First, Moses says, I will make you envious by those who are not a nation. I will make you angry by a nation that has no understanding.”

  • The Israelites were too stubborn to follow God.

“Quiet Times” 


Psalms 51:10

“Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me.”

“God’s Grace”

Psalms 103:8

“The Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and plenteous in mercy.”

  • The Lord God is merciful to His people.

“True Joy”



Ephesians 1:3

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who hath blessed us with all spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ.”

  •   God gives His people spiritual blessings


James 1:2-3

“My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into diverse temptations; knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.”

  • God gives His people joy in midst of their difficulties.



Proverbs 18:24

“A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”

  •  God sticks closer to His people more than a brother
Romans 12:19
“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, ‘Vengeance is mine, I will repay’ saith the Lord.”
  • God avenges His people.
“A New Heart”
Romans 12:2
“And be not conformed to this world; but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, acceptable perfect will of God.”
  • Do not stick to worldly teachings.



Proverbs 31:30

“Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.”

  • The Lord favors those who fear Him and delights in their beauty.


1 Timothy 4:12

“Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith ,in purity.”

  • Be honest in everything that you do or say.

“A Mother’s Love”

Philippians 4:13

“I can do all things through Christ who strengtheneth me.”

  • God strengthens His people.

“Freedom From Perfectionism”

Galatians 5:22

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.”

  • God gives His people a fruitful life.

“When It’s Hard To Love”

1 John 4:12

“No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and His love is perfected in us.”

  • God’s love dwells in the hearts of those who love Him.

Romans 8:39

“Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus.”

  • Nothing can ever separate us from God’s love.

“Trusting God”

Psalms 6:9

“The Lord hath heard my supplication; the Lord will receive my prayer.”

  • God hears and answers His people’sprayers.

“Fit For Life”

Psalms 139:14-16

“I will praise Thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are Thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. My substance was not hid from Thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being un-perfect; and in Thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.”

  • God created us in the likeness of His image.

“Family Problems”

Proverbs 22:6

“Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

  • Train and discipline the child the way he should be.


Revelations 21:4

“And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.”

  • God puts an end to all our sufferings.

Psalms 94:19

“In the multitude of my thoughts within me, Thy comforts delight my soul.”

  • God provides comfort for His people.


Proverbs 15:26

“The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the Lord, but the words of the pure are pleasant words.”

  • God honors the words of those who are pure in heart.

Romans 5:8

“But God commandeth His love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”

  • God directs His love towards His people by giving His Only Begotten Son.
Isaiah 40:29-31
“He hath given power to the faint, and to them that have no might, He increaseth strength. Even the youths shall be faint and be weary, and the young man shall utterly fall. But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.”
  • Those who wait upon the Lord shall rise up as an eagle. God provides strength for the weak and weary people.


1 Corinthians 13:4-7

“Charity suffereth long, and is kind, charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself un-seemingly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth.”

  • God’s love has all these qualities.



Matthew 25:21

“His lord said unto him; Well done, good and faithful servant ; thou hast been faithful over a few things,  I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of the lord.”

  • God rewards and blesses those who use their talents wisely.

God’s Timing


1 Timothy 6:17

“Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not high-minded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy.”

  • God gives His children heavenly riches to enjoy

Isaiah 25:1

“O Lord, Thou art my God; I will exalt Thee, I will praise Thy name; for Thou hast done wonderful things; Thy counsels of old are faithfulness and truth.”

  • God is a marvelous God. He does wonderful things for His people.

Receiving God’s Mercy


Psalms 51:1-2

“Have mercy upon me, O God, according to Thy loving kindness: according to the multitude of Thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions. Wash me thoroughly for mine iniquity and cleans me from my sins.”

  • God is merciful to His people and washes all away their iniquities.


Job 17:9

“The righteous shall also hold on his way, and he that hath clean hands shall be stronger and stronger.”

  • God strengthens those who persevere in doing good.


Matthew 7:7

“Ask,  and it shall be given you; rest, seek and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened to you.”

  • God opens the door to His people and gives them more than what they have asked for.


Matthew 5:9

“Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God.”

  • God blesses those who keep peace within their household.

Aging With Grace

Psalms 41:3

“The Lord will strengthen him up on the bed of languishing: Thou wilt make all his bed in sickness.”

  • God sustains those who are sick.


Isaiah 58:11

“And the Lord shall guide thee continually, and satisfy thy soul in drought, and make fat thy bones: and thou shalt be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, whose waters fail not.”

  • God guides and strengthens His people.


Proverbs 16:15

“In the light of the king’s countenance is life, and his favor is as a cloud of the latter rain.”

  • God blesses others through our kindness.

The Superwoman Syndrome


Job 22:21-26

Acquaint now thyself with Him and be at peace: thereby good shall come unto thee. Receive, I pray thee, the law from His mouth, and lay up His words in thine heart. If thou return to the Almighty, thou shalt be built up, thou shall put away iniquity far from thy tabernacles. Then shalt thou lay up gold as dust, and the gold of Ophir as the stones of the brooks. Yea, the Almighty shall be they defence, and thou shalt have plenty of silver. For then shalt thou have delight in the Almighty, and shalt lift up thy face unto God.”

  • God delights in His people.

Psalms 27:8

“When Thou saidst, ‘Seek ye My face’ , my heart said unto Thee, ‘Thy face, Lord, will I seek’.”

  • God’s people shall seek His face.

Simplifying Life


Philippians 4:19

“But my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Jesus Christ.”

  • God supplies all His people’s needs.

John 4:18

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is node made perfect in love.”

  • God assures His people of His love towards them.



Deuteronomy 31:6

“Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them; for the Lord thy God, He it is that doth go with thee, He will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.”

  • God never leaves nor forsakes His people.

“Freedom From Fear”

Psalms 46:1-2

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore, will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea.”

  • God helps us when trouble comes.


Philippians 4:6-7

“Be careful for nothing; but in prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known unto God. And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

  • God provides for His people’s needs and gives them peace.

“Learning To Listen”

Proverbs 12:4

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.”



Psalms 104:14-15

“He causeth the grass to grow for the cattle, and herb for the service of man: that he may bring forth food out of the earth, and wine that maketh glad the heart of man, and oil to make his face shine, and bread which strengthen man’s heart.”

  • God provides above and beyond our needs.

Psalms 13:5-6

“But I have trusted in Thy mercy; my heart shall rejoice in Thy salvation. I will sing unto the Lord, because He hath dealt bountifully with me.”

  • God brings joy to those who trust in Him.

“The Gift Of Hospitality”


Hebrews 13:1-2

“Let brotherly love continue. Be not forgetful to entertain strangers, for thereby some have entertained angels unaware.”

  • Have the heart of hospitality by welcoming strangers and treating them as neighbors or brothers.

Matthew 10:42

“And whosoever shall give to drink unto one of these little ones a cup of cold water only in the name of a disciple, verily I say unto you, he shall in no wise lose his reward.”

  • God blesses and rewards us for our hospitality.

“Your Parents”


Exodus 20:12

“Honour thy father and mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.”

  • The Lord enriches the lives of those who honor their parents.

Proverbs 3:33

“The curse of the Lord is in the house of the wicked: but He blesseth the habitation of the just.”

  • God blesses the house of those who are righteous and just.

“Beating The Blues”


Psalms 10:17

“Lord, Thou hast heard the desire of the humble: Thou wilt prepare their heart, Thou wilt cause Thine ear to hear.”

  • God hears the desires of the humble and listens to their pleas.



Psalms 33:21

“For our heart shall rejoice in Him, because we have trusted in His holy name.”

  • God’s people will find joy in their hearts when they trust and obey Him.

Jeremiah 7:23

“But this thing I commanded them, saying, ‘Obey My voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be My people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto you.”

  • God blesses those who obey Him and walk His way.